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Inspirational Thoughts

When you earnestly believe you can compensate for a lack of skill by doubling your efforts, there's no end to what you can't do.

There are no stupid questions, but there are a LOT of inquisitive idiots.

It's always darkest just before it goes pitch black.

Destiny: You were meant for me. Perhaps as a punishment.

The only consistent feature in all of your dissatisfying relationships is you.

Fear: Until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore, you will not know the terror of being forever lost at sea

Always remember that you are unique. Just like everybody else.

No single raindrop believes it is to blame for the flood.

If you find yourself struggling with loneliness, you're not alone. And yet you are alone. So very alone.

It could be that the purpose of your life is only to serve as a warning to others.

Hard work often pays off after time, but laziness always pays off now.

Our Definition of Community

As with most things, this definition is evolving, but here's a good starting point...

This is not about acquaintances, or friendly neighbors. This is not about collecting the mail and feeding the cat of the person that lives across the street from you, and having that give you a sense of connectedness. This is inevitably about integrating lives, understanding people deeply, and having their concerns be equal to your own. This takes a profound amount of trust, a thorough understanding of (and comfort with) self, and seamless honesty and integrity. This scares the shit out of most people, when it comes right down to it. I know it was a long time before I was ready for it. But the truth is, its what already exists, we just close down to it so we see it in our daily lives.

We are all interconnected. We are all capable of looking at a person - often even with strangers, but certainly with those we know well - and reading their mood. Empathy and compassion are defining human traits. When we are whole and our basic needs are either met or consciously being addressed, then its not difficult to let ourselves be open to other people. And when those are people we trust, who have equivalently become comfortable with who they are, we can develop a kind of transparency with each other. I have found that its from this place of openness that I can grow in ways I literally could not otherwise have imagined.

There are of course good days and bad, but by not shutting down, by remaining present, communicative, and honest with ourselves and each other, we face every day and learn from it. This is the growth I'd been looking for. It's like some sort of ongoing therapy that required a safe heaven to enact, it required the commitment of 'tribe', it required the encouragement of living in balance between the head and heart, coming from people who were in the ongoing process of living that transition themselves.